During therapy sessions one should feel safe and at ease with the therapist, even when discussing painful or unpleasant topics. The therapist should be skilled at eliciting crucial information and guiding clients through their stories.
The goal is for both therapist and client to gain a clear understanding of the relevant issues. Loose strands that up to now have not seemed to be connected will emerge into an integrated picture that suddenly makes sense.
Feedback from the therapist is as important as the client’s concerns. Client and therapist should agree on a plan of treatment. During difficult sessions it is important for the therapist to gently acknowledge the pain and provide appropriate support, helping the client to face and feel his/her emotions as fully as possible; to override the temptation to deny or run away from the discomfort. Only what we feel can be healed.
Through therapy one learns to change old maladaptive behaviors into healthy ones; to also should see oneself in a new and positive light, free of self-condemnation and negative judgment. The result is more inner peace, empowerment, happiness and improved relationships.